Eliminate “Trying” It’s For Wimps

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I’ve been “trying” to achieve a goal for the past twelve months. That one word trying is where the problems begun.

Trying assumes you have no certainty, confidence, strategy or belief in what the hell you’re doing. If I want to achieve a goal, then I’ve got to get off my ass and do something about it. It’s so easy to lie to ourselves and drown in a pool of negative emotions.

My definition of trying is to give something a go without any passion or certainty around the outcome. Trying, to me, is about telling people you did something so you can look good without really achieving anything at all.

Like nearly every person on the planet, I have a dream and I want to achieve it. I want to reach my own version of success. The trouble is that trying won’t get any of us there.

The word “trying” is closely followed by the words “giving up.”

Next time you think of a goal, think to yourself “do I want to take action or not take action?” That question will get you a lot further in business and in life than the word trying ever will.

Here’s why you need to eliminate trying:


1. Trying equals indecision

I meet people all the time that can’t decide. Deciding is hard work so of course, we avoid it. That’s why we fall into the trap of trying. When we can’t make up our mind, we start trying to achieve goals in the hope that maybe that will move us into either a yes or a no about that goal.

Trying is a way for us to dabble, but we all know that mastery is where it’s at. I met this dude who pitched my his startup (nothing wrong with that.) The only problem was that for the next six months he pitched me six more startups.

I told him to stop trying and stop being indecisive. I told him to make a decision about the startup he wants to do and then just go do it. I told him that if he doesn’t love what this startup does, then he’ll keep trying to convince himself of the lie that the money and success will be worth it.

Guess what? The money and success will never happen if you try. And even if you get the success, it won’t keep you motivated. Again, my advice is simply do or not do.


2. Telling someone you will try is like slapping them in the face

Trying is flat out rude. If I ask you to come to my wedding and you say, “I’ll try” you’re basically telling me my wedding is not important. Telling someone you will try is sending the message that you’ll accept the invitation for now unless something more interesting, critical, joyous, inviting, happy, worthy etc, comes up.

In fact, telling someone you will try is like slapping them in the face and telling them they are worthless. Do you like slapping people in the face?


3. Trying gives you an excuse

Excuses are like cocaine: they motivate us until the point where we realize we’ve lost our mind and we’ve been lying to ourselves. None of us want to be coke addicts so let’s think differently. People that take action, with a sense of purpose, don’t give you excuses about how they tried and it didn’t work. Here are some common excuses I hear:

– I tried but it’s not my time
– I tried but I don’t have enough money
– I tried but he or she just doesn’t like me
– I tried but X event got in my way

If you were told that you were having your first child next week would you make excuses about how you’re not ready? No, you wouldn’t. You would be so excited that you would go out there and do what had to be done. You wouldn’t have time for excuses because there was something more important called “your baby” on the way.

Here is how you overcome the above excuses that lead to the dark place called trying:

– It’s never a good time to do anything pal
– Define enough money. Maybe you are blowing money on useless crap hence the shortage
– How do you know he or she doesn’t like you? Maybe you haven’t demonstrated who you are. Or maybe you need to take more action and see someone else
– Events are always going to get in your way. Assume distractions, detours and catastrophes are going to occur

Rather than try and then use it as an excuse, replace this way of thinking with doing instead. Trying is an excuse for not giving it your all.

“Trying is giving you an excuse before you’ve even started so you can blame the failure on something other than you”

You’re in control and you’ll determine the outcome and the meaning that is derived from that outcome. Once you start speaking about action and stop speaking about trying, people will back you more and you’ll find success is easier than you think.


4. Say no, then you won’t need to try

Half the reason you get stuck trying all the time is because you keep saying yes. If someone asks you to do something and it doesn’t make you say HELL YES then say a big fat no. Don’t get emotional, don’t feel regretful, just say no.

I’ve found that when I have to go into a state of trying it’s because the task was something I should never have begun in the first place. We need to be inspired to do our best work. Doing work with a sense of passion lights us up and makes us achieve more than we thought was possible.

The fewer things you say yes to that don’t align with your goals, the more you get to avoid the awful feeling of “having to try.”

Who wants to try for the hell of it? I sure as hell don’t. I want to be full of energy and change the world. This bold plan can’t be achieved through trying. I can either change the world or I can’t.

There’s no middle ground. I decide. I make the decisions around here. I am good enough not to try and to do instead.



5. Trying makes no sense

Imagine you are going to bungee jump for the first time in your life and the instructor says to you “I’ll try and make sure you survive.” You wouldn’t be too happy with this response.

Imagine you are having heart surgery and the doctor says, “I’ll try and fix your heart, but who knows.”
Is that a surgeon that you wouldn’t want to punch in the face and ask him why he’s not giving it his all?

These scenarios show us that trying is not acceptable. Why should trying not be acceptable when it’s life or death, but be acceptable in everything else we do in life?

You can’t get away with trying. Trying is showing the world that you don’t care and you’ll see how you feel on the day and maybe give a rats about whatever action you’ve been asked to take. Success is about getting serious. Success is about being committed and not settling for second best.

Hold yourself to a higher standard. Commit to taking real action not half-assed, I’ll see how I go on the day BS. Take action or don’t take action. Forget trying.


6. Trying shows a lack of confidence

Confidence comes from being decisive and being able to cut off from all other options and go with your gut.

People who are not confident sit on the fence and think about things until their brain talks them out of it. Your brain can convince you to give up if you give it enough time. Show some confidence, take a risk and commit. Confidence is sexy whereas trying is ugly.

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Top 5 Tips for More Focused Work Sessions

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Do you know what’s one of the best things about running your own business and being your own boss? No one can tell you what to do, when to do it, and why to do it the way you’re going to do it. Do you know what’s one of the hardest things about being your own boss? No one is there to tell you to do anything.

And, as we all know, we can oftentimes be our own worst enemies. The Internet is rife with distractions and opportunities for procrastination. When you have no set working hours, no supervisor hovering over your shoulder to make sure you get the job done, and no imminent deadline that you absolutely must meet lest you wish to be fired, there’s no one to keep you accountable but yourself.

How can you make sure that when you sit down in front of the computer to do your blogging, affiliate marketing, product development or whatever else you do that you actually do the work and not waste your time surfing aimlessly around Facebook and YouTube?

Start with “Mise en Place”

“Mise en place” is a French culinary term that literally translates as “put in place” or “putting in place.” what it means is ensuring that you have everything in place before you even get started with the real work at hand.


Consider this from a chef’s perspective. If you start preparing a recipe, but you keep having to leave your workstation to go grab some more peppers from the fridge or some more spices from the pantry, if you have to divert your attention to cut some mushrooms or portion out the coriander, you’re not going to be as effective. But if you already have everything prepped and ready before you fire up the grill, you can focus on delivering the best dish possible.

Your work as an online professional is no different, except you need to manage both physical and digital/virtual “ingredients.” Make sure you have everything you need before you get started. You don’t want to waste time walking to the other room to get a form or rummaging through your drawer to find a flash drive.

Keep Email and Social Media Closed

Even if you think that you don’t want to be distraction, your mind and body will naturally welcome the relief that these distractions can bring. What’s the harm of leaving your Gmail open in the other tab anyhow? The harm is when you see you have an unread message and that (1) starts burning a hole in the back of your retina.

To focus on the particular task at hand, ideally you want to keep all of those other windows closed. This way, there’s no temptation to tab over to Hootsuite to check on Twitter. If you must keep those windows open, at least minimize them so they’re not a visual distraction.

Enable “Do Not Disturb” Mode


Extending on the previous idea, another incredible source of distraction and procrastination is your smartphone. You think that you want to keep your phone on your desk in case you get an important call or text message, but that nagging notification light could be nothing more than telling you it’s your turn in Words with Friends.

If you really want to hunker down on a project, turn on the “do not disturb” mode on your phone (or other). Both iOS and Android devices have some variation of this capability, temporarily muting notifications so you aren’t tempted by the blinking light.

Use the Pomodoro Technique

As focused as you try to be with the work that you want to do, it’s not realistically to force yourself to be 100% productive for hours at a stretch. Your brain just doesn’t work that way. Instead, a much better method is to leverage what is called the Pomodoro technique.

There are tons of mobile and web apps that can aid you with this. The default setting will get you to work for a concentrated session of 25 minutes, followed by a forced 5 minute break. After a certain number of completed pomodoros, you are treated to a longer break. It’s like high intensity interval training (HIIT) for your productivity.

Define Your 30-Minute Tasks


To-do lists are very useful for staying organized and making sure you don’t miss anything. However, when you have an item on your to-do list that’s far too large and broad, the intimidation factor could leave you neglecting what could be a very important item because you don’t want to tackle it.

Having “write an ebook” on there isn’t going to do you much good, because it’ll feel like it’ll take you forever to tick that off your list. Instead, redefine your tasks such that they can be completed in 30 minutes or so. You can stretch that to an hour if need be.

It’s much more motivating when you get to tick “write outline for ebook introduction” off your list, pushing you along to the other steps you’ll need to take in the process.

How do you stay motivated and on track when working by yourself? What methods do you use to block out unnecessary distractions?

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All Anybody Ever Wants Is A Chance: Give It To Them

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We can only get so far before we need someone to say yes to us. I watched a video recently of a magician who was in his thirties and had never been given a chance. He performed a magic trick that was pretty generic.

What was extraordinary about him though was that he almost seemed like he had come out of a 1900’s comedy show. He was funny and genuinely a nice person. He did his best to let his passion shine through and show everybody who he was.

He took risks, was vulnerable and gave every ounce of himself. At the end of his act, all he wanted was a chance. In his eyes, you could tell that he had longed for someone to believe in him. In that moment, the chance of a lifetime was given to him and his dream came true.

The young man was in tears and overwhelmed with emotion. Watching this play out made me emotional too. At that moment, I realized that all any of us wants is a chance. We all have a dream that we want to achieve and if we work hard enough, we deserve that chance.

Maybe it’s a chance at a career that you’ve always wanted, or a chance at falling in love, or the opportunity to pitch your business to investors, or the chance to perform your art in front of thousands of people.

The purpose of this blog post is to get you thinking about the chances you can give other people.

Here’s why you should give people a chance:


1. Someone gave you a chance

You wouldn’t be where you are right now if someone didn’t give you a chance. Whether you realize it or not, someone you know or don’t know allowed you to get where you are. They saw something in you and believed you could do it.

You may not have had the experience or even the right level of passion, but someone believed in you. The least you can do is give that same gift back to someone else. Don’t give it to the first person you see: give it to the person that you believe has earned it.

Give that chance to someone who you believe has a gift and hasn’t had any good luck come their way. You have so much power in your life to change lives. You can make such a dent in the world by believing in someone.

It’s in your human nature to support someone who needs a chance. We’re all humans driven by emotion. The emotion someone makes you feel is usually a good indicator that they may deserve a chance from you.

Sometimes, like the magician, someone comes into your life that is humble, sweet, grateful and brilliant at what they do. Next time this happens, don’t hesitate and give this person a chance.


2. It’s a gift

I wouldn’t be writing these very words if someone had given me a chance. An amazing mentor of mine saw something in me when, to be honest, I didn’t even see that same greatness in myself that they saw. This topic is so close to my heart because I know what it’s like to be given a chance.

I’ve been given some incredible chances in my life and I’ve done the best I can not to waste them. Chances are a gift that you can give. Many people think you need lots of money to give awesome gifts. This idea is wrong. The best gift you can give is a chance to someone who needs it.

Instead of judging someone in need of a chance, put yourself in their shoes. Think back to the chances you have been given which may have been disguised in some weird way as a job offer or romantic interest. If you’re not going to give the gift of a chance to someone then what other things in your life are you not doing?

Why couldn’t you give someone a chance next time the opportunity came around? If you’re not going to give a chance to someone now, then even when you hit your so-called success marker, you’re not going to give a chance then either. Giving chances allows you to receive the same gift in return.

“The world works in mysterious ways and chances that are given come back to you in weird and wonderful ways”

Since I gave chances, my life has changed. I’ve been given chances that I never thought were possible. It starts with being humble and believing that you already have enough.

From this abundant place, you can give a chance to someone who has waited their entire life to meet you and be given your gift. Don’t miss out on the rewards that come from giving chances.


3. They deserve it

Just like the magician, there are lots of people out there that deserve a chance. I believe that if someone deserves a chance, then you should use your power as a leader to give them one. The worst that can happen is you give them a chance and they mess it up.

Failure is going to happen in every aspect of your life or business anyway, so you’ve got nothing to lose. Some of the best stuff ups create the most beautiful results. I have always believed that someone who deserves a chance should be given one.

The hard part for me is sometimes working out whether the person desiring a chance from you should be given one.

Here’s what to look for:

– The way they ask for a chance
– Their body language
– The emotion they show you
– Whether they share something vulnerable with you
– How far they are willing to go to get that chance
– Whether they will pay the chance forward

For me, knowing someone is going to take the chance I give them and then pay it forward is the biggest criteria I have. I want the world to keep prospering and this can only happen when we all pay the chances we are given forward.


4. You’ll get ten times back

Every chance you give out will come back ten times. I feel like I’m living proof of this. Every chance I have given out has given me back ten times what I gave out in the first place. When you give people a chance they remember it.

Your dreams become top of mind for the person you gave a chance too. At every corner, if they see a way to repay you, they will and often they’ll do so without thinking. I gave a bunch of chances to some fellow writers and each of them has done so many nice favors for me in return.

You only get chances given to you when you begin with giving chances in the first place, without expecting anything in return.


5. It feels good to believe in someone

Maybe the best reason to give people a chance is that it feels good. When you give out chances to people, you become someone that is looked upon as a leader. Giving out chances and seeing people achieve their dreams is one of the best feelings you can ever experience.

All anybody ever wants is a chance and this includes you. Next time you have the opportunity to give someone a chance, think back to what I’ve said. Remember that leaders change the world and giving out chances is part of that journey.

You won’t always get it right and that’s okay. Do it anyway and have faith in the outcome. We all deserve a chance. We’ve all had our lows and you have the power to create the ultimate high in someone’s life.

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Everything You Need to Become a Negotiation Expert (from Major Strategies to Small Tricks)

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling as though you didn’t represent your wants and needs? If so, you may need to refine your negotiation skills.

In theory, negotiation should be easy. You ask for something, and the other person responds with a “Yes” or “No.” In reality, it’s trickier than that. This is because negotiation is not a single skill. You need to be aware that negotiation occurs in several distinct stages in order to stand the best chance of getting what you want. It is essential that you prepare what you need to say in advance, that you take part in a reasonable discussion concerning the issue, that you clarify the goals of each party, find a “win-win” situation, reach a final agreement, and then decide on a course of action[1]. Therefore, you a re going to need to draw on your patience, problem-solving abilities, and interpersonal skills.

Although it is a complex set of skills that takes practice to master, learning how to negotiate will improve your life in many ways. You will be able to set out your arguments in a clear, concise manner without becoming overly emotional. You will be able to work with others to find the best solution for all parties. This applies to both your professional and personal life. In turn, this will decrease your stress levels, reduce feelings of resentment, and enhance your quality of life.

Follow the steps below to become a successful negotiator:

Consider whether you need to use integrative or distributive tactics[2]

In a distributive situation, there are a finite amount of resources available to all parties, and the aim is to divide them fairly. For example, a seller and a customer may be negotiating the price of an item. In such a scenario, you should try and let the other side make the initial offer, because this lets you know immediately what they will sacrifice. You can also present alternatives to sway them one way or the other. For instance, if you are the buyer, tell them about their competitor’s products. Such negotiations are usually reserved for isolated, one-off agreements.

In an integrative negotiation, there is a chance that everyone involved could benefit from coming to a mutually beneficial agreement. For instance, three members of the same household may be negotiating how the chores are divided. Set out your priorities, and ask that the other parties do the same. Establish what is most important for each individual, and talk through all realistic solutions before arriving at an agreement.

Become a great listener

The most important skill in negotiation is to listen[3]. Let others finish their sentences before jumping in. Talking over others will only lead to frustration. Even if you think you know what they are going to say, always give them the opportunity to put their ideas across. If you are not quite sure what they are trying to communicate, paraphrase their sentences back to them followed by, “Have I understood you correctly?”

Get creative when coming up with potential solutions

It can be hard to come up with solutions that benefit all parties. Allow yourself time to come up with new ideas. If everyone gets stuck, suggest a half-hour break. During this time, everyone should write down as many potential solutions as possible. This exercise can help jump-start a stalled negotiation.

Learn about the other side

Before beginning a tough negotiation process, uncover as much information as possible about the other parties. How have they negotiated in the past? What are their short and long-term goals? This will help you prepare to deal with the tactics they may use.

Consider the “why,” not just the “what”

You should not only have a good idea of what it is you want, but why you want it. Be prepared to spell out your ultimate motives, as this can make your arguments more persuasive. For example, rather than merely asking your employer whether you can change your working hours, explain that you are making this request in order to spend more time with your young children or get them to school in the mornings.

Follow these tips and you are bound to enjoy better results when bargaining with other people. Negotiation does not have to be frustrating or stressful if you approach it properly.


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Strategies to Write Content That Promotes Itself

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One of the hardest tasks facing people in the blogging world is promoting their content. With so much competition, it’s no wonder attracting an audience is so difficult. Over the years, I’ve been doing a lot of research on marketing strategies, trying to narrow down the different channels we have available. I’ve explored banner advertising, organic search, social media, guest blogging, etc. The good news is, over the years, I learned some very amazing things about NOT only writing content, but also marketing. Did you know you can utilize some cool strategies to create content that pretty much promotes itself? Implementing this strategy isn’t difficult at all because you just have to be creative.

The next time you sit down to write content, focus on writing content that promotes itself.

Let’s get started…

Finding the Right Idea

I’ve mentioned this several times before, that all content writing should start with an effective research process. Through research, you can find trending topics that will create a buzz instantaneously. If you want content to self-promote itself, then it’s important to write content people want. I always suggest finding a common problem within your niche then finding competitor content on that topic. Why? You’re going to want to create content better than your competitors, so you have higher engagement than them on social channels and organic search engines. Here’s an example,

I write on link building and learned readers have a hard time finding a solid list of article directories. I checked other competitor blogs that provided a list and created something better for my readers. Search engines loved it because I’m ranking #1 for the keyword and it’s gone viral with over 6,000 shares. To help you with this step, use tools like Buzzsumo.com and Topsy.com to find keyword related content with the highest shares. After, skim through each site’s writing adding the elements other content is missing.

Improve Content

Once you’ve found the content you’re going to be writing to outshine your competition, it’s important you implement these tweaking elements. I check for the following and if I don’t see it within my competitor’s content, I’ll add them to mine.

  • Images – if I don’t see images, then I’ll add it to my content because it helps people understand my content better. Some people who visit my blog won’t speak English well, so images help with getting the point across.
  • Video – YouTube.com has blown up in recent years because they provide an effective channel to make learning easy. Think about how easy it is to follow videos when learning how to do something.
  • Length – Neil Patel published an interesting graph, showing how the top 10 results on Google’s first page have an average word count of 2,000+. The longer the content, the more in-depth and value it provides.
  • Infographics – Tell a complete story without any text by creating an infographic. A quick way to get the point across.

Social Images for Sharing

If you want to create self-promoting content, then it’s important you add elements perfect for social marketing. Many people will share your content so it’s important your content displays well on social networks like Twitter, Facebook, and Google +. Here’s something to pay close attention to…

It’s been proven Twitter and Facebook users love images and tend to click-through when an image is displayed with the text. There are many factors that contribute to the increase in CTR and “shares”. For example,

  • Images attract users more than plain text
  • Images provide a quick way to understand content
  • They don’t easily get lost in the stream
  • Images look good when shared on “picture” driven platforms like Pinterest, etc.

There are a few WordPress plug-ins you can install to your blog to customize what image is displayed when your content is shared. The one I’m currently using is SEOPressor.

Some More Tips…

Here are a few more tips to help you with your content writing. The style you choose will depend on your niche but consider the following…

Headlines – Write attractive headlines because these are what helps you stand apart from your competition. When you do a quick search in Google and skim through the results, think about what attracts you to click through on a link. For example, it’s the title and description compared to all the others…right? The same applies to social media marketing, too, so make sure you write engaging titles and/or headlines.

Quotes – Including creative quotes in your content is a great way to get your point across and motivate at the same time. Not to mention, bloggers rarely practice adding quotes so it’s a great way to stand out.

Automate – If you want your content to self-promote, then it’s a great idea to have a system in place to “tweet” and “share” your content. Bufferapp.com is a cool tool that allows you to automate your sharing, getting it in front of people. With high quality content, effective headlines, images, and being automated, it’s a great way to get your content to go viral quickly without too much effort on your end afterward.

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Want to Organize Your Messy Life? Take Up This 30-Day Challenge

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Becoming a minimalist takes dedication. Simplifying your life isn’t easy and requires careful thought and consideration. What can you live without?

Where do you even begin? Here are several challenges you can commit to for 30 days to get you on your way to becoming a minimalist.

Day 1: Define what minimalism means to you[1]

Does it mean carrying a 0 balance on your credit cards? Living without cable TV or WiFi? Have one less car or now cars? Does it involve giving your most prized possessions away to charity in order to lead a simpler life free of clutter?

Day 2: Figure out the areas in your life you can simplify

Start with your bedroom for example. Do you have too many blankets, pillows, and clothes lying around? Start by clearing this area of your home. Perhaps limit the decor and comforters. Buy a simple yet comfortable mattress[2]that really doesn’t need a lot of added items like mattress toppers.

Day 3: Declutter common areas

Your living room, kitchen, garage, and bathrooms.

Day 4: Declutter social media

Do you have so many contacts on your iPhone that you don’t even know where half of them came from? It’s time to minimize your contacts. This goes for emails, friend lists, and social networks. What can you do without here?

Day 5: Downsize your living space

With all the new room, you might consider downsizing to a smaller house or apartment.

Day 6: Limit your subscriptions

Think of all that you’re subscribed to. Can you do without these or limit them? You’re minimizing this area of your life while saving.

Day 7: Get rid of clothes you haven’t worn in two years

If you haven’t worn it in the past two years, do you really want it?

Day 8: If you carry a purse or backpack, clean it out

We know that old squished Snikers bar and old receipts aren’t doing you any good.

Day 9: Evaluate your grocery shopping habits

If it’s been sitting at the back of your fridge for over a month, chances are you didn’t really need it in the first place.

Day 10: Limit the hours you’re connected to your digital device

You may be surprised of all the creativity that comes with ditching your device.

Day 11: Give your books away after you’ve read them

This is a quick way to prevent clutter and do a friend a favor.

Day 12: Minimize events on your calendar

Find a healthy balance.

Day 13: Clean out your makeup drawer

It’s probably unsanitary to keep makeup longer than three months anyway.

Day 14: Eliminate useless items in your car

We all need a little help in this department.

Day 15: Simplify your morning routine

The plus side is getting to sleep in longer.

Day 16: Give away old DVDs you know you’re never going to watch

They’re really just collecting dust by now.

Day 17: Eliminate old broken dishes

Those old college cups just won’t do it anymore.

Day 18: Eliminate the junk food like you did your junk drawer

Just imagine all the toxins you’re eliminating.

Day 19: Delete all those selfies on your phone

Just old photos and screenshots in general.

Day 20: Go for a walk without your phone

Take in the scenery.

Day 21: Create a relaxing space at home and in your office

Now you’re starting to live like a real minimalist.

Day 22: Eat and go to sleep at the same time every day

You’ll feel great.

Day 23: Eliminate worn out socks and underwear

More space. Less clutter.

Day 24: Definitely shred old mail

No one needs extra paper floating around.

Day 25: Delete apps

You probably have ones you never use.

Day 26: Donate old coats and scarves that haven’t seen the light of day in years

You’re doing a nice thing for those in need.

Day 27: Throw away those old nail polishes that have dried out

You’ve probably got a few you don’t need anymore.

Day: 28 Eliminate the useless products under your bathroom sink and don’t buy more

Everyone’s got old hair products we never use.

Day 29: Throw way those old vitamins and medicines

Opt in for a healthy smoothies[3] with all vitamins you need.

Day 30: Definitely eliminate those old dusty magazine you never read

The bottom line is figuring out what is truly adding value to your life and what isn’t. It’s no easy task but this minimalist 30-day challenge will help get you started. If you master the first 30 days, try going for 60.[4]


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Take This Resilience Test to Know Yourself Well Before the next Big Challenge Comes

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The song by Big Sean, ‘Bounce Back’ has been stuck in my head lately. The catchy hit starts off with, “Last night took an ‘l’ but tonight I bounce back.” Popular songs aside, how well do you bounce back when you take a loss? I know sometimes I experience something challenging, and I let it ruin my entire day. Sometimes I let it ruin my whole week.

Resilience, as a term, means to recover from something difficult. Bonus points if you recover quickly. For some career fields, like engineering, there are resilience tests and measurements to make sure the structures will survive despite challenging weather. But what about us? Is there a test we can take to determine how we will weather the storms in our lives?

I’m glad you asked! The quiz provided at the end of this article will help you gauge where you stand with resilient behaviors. It’s a great thing to know so that you can face any situation with more confidence, knowing how you are hard-wired to respond to things. And isn’t that half the battle? If you can take the guess work out of something, you eliminate fear of the unknown.

I like to think I’m pretty resilient, but if I really think about it, I don’t know that I am. So I took the quiz, too. It’s pretty straight-forward; just read the sentence and select if it’s very inaccurate, moderately inaccurate, neither accurate nor inaccurate, moderately accurate or very accurate.

After taking the test, I found that I scored fairly high in all categories, thus proving I am decent at persevering!

So what about you? Where do you think you’ll rank on the perseverance spectrum? After taking the test, were you surprised by your results? Make sure to share with your friends to see who in your group is best at weathering those storms!

Take the test here

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How to Personalise Your Blog Like These 10 Top Bloggers

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Lots of bloggers seem to do everything right, yet they don’t see much success.

They write well-structured posts, they pay attention to SEO, they know the ins and outs of their blogging software … but something’s lacking.

That missing “something” can often be personality. It’s the difference between a blog that readers come across and instantly forget … and a blog that makes a connection and an impact.

Does your blog need a bit of extra personalisation? Here’s how ten top bloggers make their blogs stand out:

#1: Include Great Photos, like Caz and Craig from YTravel

Blog: YTravel

Some blogging topics pretty much demand great photos. Travel is one of those (and others include food, craft and fashion blogging).

Caz and Craig post gorgeous, smiley photos of their family. Some of these are simple candid snapshots, like in 17 Tips for Flying With Kids to Keep You Calm and Happy, and others are a little more posed, like the photos in Getting Settled in the USA + Where to Next.

Lessons learned:

#2: Add Some Flair, like Pat Flynn from Smart Passive Income

Blog: Smart Passive Income

As soon as you visit Pat’s blog, Smart Passive Income, you see a huge photo of him, plus his signature:

He adds flair in other ways too: his 404 page is inspired by on Back to the Future – his favourite movie, as noted on his bold, eye catching About page.

Lessons learned:

  • Don’t be afraid to go big! That might mean a huge photo of yourself, a bold statement, or an About page that’s filled with images.
  • Talk about who you are beyond blogging: Pat lists his favourite book, movie and game, and writes about his family on his About page.

#3: Develop a Strong, Identifiable Tone, like Shannon from Shannon’s Kitchen [language warning]

Blog: Shannon’s Kitchen

Salty language tends to polarise readers: some love it and find it a big part of a blog’s appeal; others will be put off and won’t return. Shannon swears – frequently and enthusiastically – on her blog (even in her tagline and navigation menu):

Lessons learned:

#4: Get Custom Illustrations, like Ramsey from Blog Tyrant

Blog: Blog Tyrant

As soon as you visit Blog Tyrant, you’ll see Ramsey’s red-shirted avatar: this illustration features in the banner image on the home page, and in the feature images for several of his posts:

It’s also on the front cover of his free report.

Lessons learned:

  • Custom illustrations can create a sense of consistency across your blog. Ramsey’s not the only blogger who uses them in this way: Social Media Examiner have their little jungle explorer in their header and at the start of each post.
  • If you’re not comfortable including personal photos, a cartoon version of you can be a great alternative.

#5: Include an Eye-Catching Sidebar Profile, like Elsie and Emma from A Beautiful Mess

Blog: A Beautiful Mess

New readers may land on any post on your blog … and it can help to give them a quick glimpse into who you are and what you’re all about. Sisters Elsie and Emma do this stylishly with a bright, bold photo and handwritten names in their blog’s sidebar:

Lessons learned:

  • An “About me” widget in your sidebar is a great place to create an instant connection with your reader. Include a link to your full About page too.
  • Happy, smiley photos of you are always a great draw. Some bloggers include these in the header, but the sidebar is a great alternative.

#6: Be Consistent With Your Branding Across Platforms, like Chris Ducker

Blog: Chris Ducker

Chris Ducker uses the same (smiling) headshot on his About page, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn, creating a consistent brand across multiple platforms:

Lessons learned:

  • If you’ve gone to the time and expense of getting a professional headshot done, use it – not just in your banner image, but on social media too.
  • You may want to have variations on your headshot, from the same shoot (compare Chris’s front page image with his About page headshot, for instance).

#7: Use Colour to Boost Your Brand, like Jadah Sellner

Blog: Jadah Sellner

When you visit Jadah’s site, your eyes are instantly drawn to her bright, colourful banner:

The colours of her clothes tie in with the colours of the newsletter sign up: it feels like everything fits together seamlessly. (The tagline above the banner picks up on the same deep pink colour, too.)

Lessons learned:

  • Colour matters! Perhaps bright colours aren’t quite right for your blog, but you can still create a similar banner image that takes colours from a photo of you and uses them for text and other elements.
  • Use colour consistently across your site: check out Jadah’s contact page for some examples.

#8: Use “I” in Your Content, like James Schramko from SuperFastBusiness

Blog: SuperFastBusiness

The first words of James’s homepage are a bold “I” statement: instantly, it’s clear what he’s all about and what he does, and – crucially –how he can help the reader.

Lessons learned:

  • Don’t be afraid to write in the first person. Some bloggers are reluctant to do this, but using “I” and “you” can help you connect to readers and show your personality.
  • Make sure, though, your focus isn’t just on yourself and your own story but on how you can have an impact on readers’ lives.

#9: Have a Tagline that Instantly Lets Readers Know if They’re in the Right Place, like Kelly Exeter

Blog: Kelly Exeter

Taglines can be really tricky to get right, and some bloggers choose not to use them at all. A great tagline, though, is a huge asset: in just a few words, you can tell your ideal readers that your blog is exactly the right place for them.

Here’s Kelly’s:

Lessons learned:

  • Think about who you serve (“compulsive strivers”) and what your blog will help those people do (“lead a less frantic life”).
  • Spend some time honing your tagline, so that it sounds just right – you might want to read it aloud.

#10: Create a “Start Here” Page That Explains What You’re All About, like Emilie Wapnick from Puttylike

Blog: Puttylike

Lots of blogs use a “Start Here” page, but having one is particularly important if – like Emilie – you’ve combined several different passions or strands into one blog. Emilie has different sections on the page to bring together her most popular posts in different categories.

Lessons learned:

  • You can blog about more than one topic, but make sure you’re clear about what you cover so that new readers can get a good sense of your scope.
  • Bringing together your best posts in one place make it easy to showcase your work and draw in new readers who share your interests.

How are you currently showing your personality on your blog? Did anything resonate with you as you looked at the above examples … and what will you try next?

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How To Nail Down Your Life Plan For The Next 12 Months

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If you’ve ever felt that you’ve been at a crossroads, unsure of which way to go, you’re not alone! Many people face this problem every day in today’s busy world. No one enjoys feeling lost in their life, yet it happens all the time.

Planning out your future is one effective method to tackle the problem of feeling lost and confused about the future. Planning is like a road map for your life. You’re much less likely to get lost with a detailed map. A great place to start is by planning out your next 12 months.

So much can happen between today and this exact day in the next year. But with a map of your future in hand, you’ll have a clearer path for the life you want to experience. What better time than now to plan ahead for your future?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the thought of planning ahead, put your worries to rest. Breaking down the planning process into a list of things to do (and things to avoid) is a helpful step towards a more organized life.

Things to do:
  • Prioritize your plans by putting the bigger, more important plans at the forefront. You increase their visibility not forget about them. The less important plans can take the backseat until after the more important plans are complete.
  • Get specific with your goals and plans. The clearer these are, the better. Clean-cut objectives are easier to accomplish because there is less room for confusion to derail you. If you know exactly what needs to be done, you can confidently take the steps required to complete your goal.
  • Be bold. Don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone when making plans. By pushing your boundaries, you open yourself up to unforeseen possibilities that you would not encounter otherwise by playing it safe.
  • Pay attention to your resources. You might have some of them to get you started, but you might need to acquire new resources down the line. How will you adapt to these new obstacles?

“All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” – Earl Nightingale

Things to avoid:
  • Don’t be vague with your plans. Your plans and the road to reach them becomes hindered if they include foggy steps and an unclear finish line. An unclear plan leads to confusion and inefficiency. To fix this, be sure to eliminate or limit any distractions such as side projects and other plans that aren’t as prioritized.
  • Don’t sabotage yourself. Making too many unrealistic plans will overwhelm you in the long run and bog you down. This may lead to missed or cancelled plans, which hurts relationships with others and yourself. Respect your limits to avoid running into this problem.
  • Don’t worry if you can do it or not. Setting a plan doesn’t set it in stone. Allow some space for changing plans if needed.
  • Don’t make the plan impersonal. The more impersonal you make your plans, the more difficult it is to see yourself participating in them. If your plans seem unrealistic and uncharacteristic of you, they will seem foreign when you revisit them in the future.
  • Don’t copy other people’s goals. Living up to others’ future aspirations may jeopardize your own. Redirect focus to your life, and find what is most important to you. Sticking to this plan will lead you to achieve more of the goals that you set.
Break the vicious chain

Don’t randomly pass through life. Take a moment and think about your future journey. Take 1 hour (with zero interruptions) to answer the action step questions and write down your plan for the next 12 months. Find a friend you can share your plan with. Ask him or her to be your accountability partner for the next 12 months.

Having a friend involved makes the process more fun and ensures you’ll have motivation to stick to your plans. Having this in writing makes it much more concrete and real in your life. With just this, you are already more prepared to fulfill your future.

What emotions might you experience during the 12 month planning process?
  • Anxiety. You may feel afraid of the uncertainty of the future. This is totally normal. Staying present will help you to avoid worrying too much about what lies ahead.
  • You may feel anger at first, as a result of frustration about planning. While the beginning of the 12 month planning process may seem daunting at first, rest assured that things will become easier the more time you spend on it.
  • Rushed. It my seem that you don’t have the patience to sit down in silence and think of your plans, and you want to jump directly to action. Resist it!
  • Hope should resonate with you as you gain more confidence in your ability to conquer the planning process.
  • Ultimately, it would be best if happiness is felt at some point when you see your effort of bettering yourself is taking shape.

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France

How might you feel after the process?
  • Relief in knowing that you are now in a better place than before you started.
  • You will likely feel more at peace with yourself. The plans about your future are more definitive and in writing.
  • You will likely feel less stressed, because the previously uncertain future for yourself becomes more certain. This allows you to think more clearly about what’s happening now.
  • Productivity in all aspects of your life will increase when you have a solid plan for the future.
Start today with these simple questions:
  1. Where will you put your time and energy in the next 12 months?
  2. What motivates you?
  3. What resources do you have, and don’t have?
  4. What steps (milestones) will you follow?
  5. Who will track your progress?

Write down these answers on a dated journal or notebook (so you can have a time and date you can always refer to while you’re progressing) and enjoy your journey.

Are you going to start your 12 month plan today? Leave your thoughts below!

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