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How Clutter Drains Your Brain (and What You Can Do About It)

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You’re sitting on the subway or bus, trying to read something. It could be related to a work project or it could even be for pleasure. A person comes and sits down next to you. They’re in the middle of a loud personal conversation about their friend’s romantic antics. Now, instead of focusing on your reading, you find yourself hearing parts about someone’s love life — and, in fact, you have to consciously focus on ignoring that conversation to get your own reading done.

Most people think it’s easy to ignore these little distractions, but it’s not. The brain has a limited amount of functions it can perform at a given time. Distractions and clutter that aren’t worth attention take up some of that space in the brain and reduce the space remaining for things that matter — and thinking overall.

Ignoring anything takes energy, and the brain becomes passive when it can’t control what to think about. Ignoring clutter around you (noise, distractions) often takes the same amount of energy as focusing.

The Unaware Distractions

In a physical sense, think of your desk at work. There are usually folders, pencils, and other nick-knacks all around. You know you shouldn’t fiddle with these — it’s not the point and it won’t help you focus — but as a day draws on and energy wanes, you’re often drawn to doing just that. It takes up space in your mind to ignore these little things.

Those are just physical things, too — the explosion of the digital world has made this even more complicated. Somewhere between 89 and 115 billion business emails are sent every day globally,[1] and many people do not have good systems for organizing their inboxes.[2]

The same can happen with non-physical elements like friendships. If you’re in an annoying text exchange with a friend and you know (from your lock screen) that the latest, just-arrived text is completely annoying, you might tell yourself, “I’ll exit this conversation and just ignore it.” But you know the text is sitting there. You’re going to burn lots of mental energy trying to avoid that text.

This all becomes a problem because our lives have so much clutter, both physical, mental and digital. All this creates clutter and the need to ignore, which makes the brain work harder.

Too Much Stuff Burns out the Brain

Now imagine this situation, you hate reading, and you’re put in an empty room with a book. What’s going to eventually happen? You’re going to read that book.

But this isn’t the usual reality. Most rooms with books tend to also contain— or have nearby— TVs, smartphones, computers, and other potential distractions. Asking you to finish reading that book will take you a lot of mental energy to ignore all other stuff first.

Even though you may think that you have got used to the stuff around and don’t find them distracting, all those things are constantly stimulating your thoughts unconsciously. “I know I should read the book, but maybe I should clean the TV set first.“, or “I know I’d better start to read this book, but the computer should be placed on my desk instead.

To think about ignoring those thoughts, again, burns up your brain energy.

Take Back Your Brain Energy

When you know your priority on what is important, you know what to remove from life and free up brain energy.

In a work context, two-third of managers cannot name the priorities of their organization.[3] This often filters down throughout the organization, confusing workflows and burning people out on supposedly important projects that, in reality, aren’t tied to actual priorities at all.

This happens in personal and relationship contexts as well. People are often unclear on what they want out of life and partners, etc.[4] They spend time away from priority, trying to manage/ignore toxic relationships, the curated social media lives of their friends, etc.

It’s that your brain energy needs to be spent on legitimate priority tasks. That means value-add work, strong friendships, burgeoning relationships, friends, family, pets, career goals, and the like. It doesn’t need to be spent on low-priority, cluttered tasks.

But because of how our brains work, and the energy we need to spend on ignoring the clutter and noise around us, we often spend a lot of time and energy on the low-priority tasks and events.

Begin by removing the “stuff” in your life that doesn’t truly serve a purpose. That can be very challenging for many people, but thankfully there is a formula to help you throw away stuff without regret: The Declutter Formula That Helps You Throw Stuff Away. Learn it, know it, and try your best to follow it.

Only when you remove the unnecessary distractions and mental energy-zappers can you truly begin to re-focus your life. Every time when you see clutter around you, think about how much mental energy you have to spend on ignoring them.

The first step is de-cluttering your life, both physically and digitally. Only then will you be able to focus your mental energies in the right direction.

When you remove the unnecessary elements from your life, that’s when your energy can be used for those elements to really help you grow as a successful, well-connected person. It all starts with the elimination of clutter.

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Real Leaders Hate Managing People

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Hearing the word “leader”, what first comes to mind is often “managers”. But what about Martin Luther King and Mother Theresa? They were great leaders though they weren’t managers. Both won the respect of millions, both started important social movements, and both are remembered as key influencers.

Real leadership isn’t about managing people actually, it’s about influencing people. And real leaders have these 10 qualities in common:

1. Leaders are here for change

No true leader accepts the status quo. They always seek to improve the system, and they have no problem with challenging long-established routines. Even when change is an uphill battle, a leader is ready to take charge and realize their vision.

Many people aspire to make a change too. While it’s never an easy process and requires more than one person’s power. Teamwork becomes vital. And this is how leaders can help make the whole thing possible.

2. Leaders are always looking at least 5 steps ahead

A leader’s role is to provide direction and guidance to a group of people, even when everyone has different opinions. They need to understand the implications of their decisions, and to keep one eye on the future. This helps them make a reliable roadmap for the future. At the same time, a leader is sufficiently flexible that they can change their plans if required.

When some team members are planning the second step or the third step, leaders are already foreseeing the fifth step. Such vision helps make sure the direction is right and no efforts of team members would be wasted.

3. Leaders never skip their routines, no matter how busy they may be

A great leader does not seek instant gratification. They know that success is built on a foundation of solid routine and incremental progress. They don’t believe in overnight success. They just make sure their efficiency is high so that they can keep following their routine and would not skip a single one.

Here at Lifehack, every employee receives half an hour of coaching each week. This is a significant time investment, but it pays off in terms of personal growth and business productivity.

4. Leaders’ know their followers’ stories

Strong leaders take a sincere interest in their followers’ personal lives, aspirations, and motives. This allows them to tap into other people’s deepest desires, and use this to provide motivation and encouragement whenever they start to flag. That’s why I keep private profiles for every team member. This allows me to tailor my approach whenever we interact, and understand what their work means to them as an individual.

5. Leaders love to empower others

The best way to motivate someone is to provide them with real control and power over their work and lives. This increases their productivity and sense of belonging as well. As great leaders know who they attracted are really talented people, they have trust in them and would let them make their own decisions. Micromanagement is avoided all the time.

Google embraces this principle with their “20% Rule.” Employees are encouraged to spend 20% of their working hours on their personal projects, rather than assigned tasks. This provides them with a sense of ownership and personal responsibility.

6. Leaders are talent magnets

Very few people aspire to work with a narrow-minded, bad-tempered leader. A great leader knows that they will only attract the best people if they exhibit positivity along with their passion and grand vision.

7. Leaders don’t believe in the existence of failure

To a good leader, the only true failure is the failure to act. Otherwise, the worst that can happen is that they learn a valuable lesson – and that isn’t actually a bad outcome at all! By this logic, there is no such thing as failure. If an idea doesn’t work out, it just signals a need for a change in direction.

They know one of the biggest regrets people have is they never try. So be bold to try, and “fail”. It’s always better than sitting there doing nothing.

8. Leaders aren’t proud of being “busy”

Being busy is often used as a status symbol in today’s society. However, being busy is not necessarily a sign of productivity. Leaders know this, and are always questioning how they can work more efficiently. They know that time management skills, together with the ability to identify and prioritize important tasks, are vital to success.

When they find themselves busy, they know something is wrong. They would check if they delegate enough tasks and are focusing on the right things.

9. Leaders trust their intuition

Some people maintain that trusting a hunch or gut instinct is never a good idea, but a true leader knows that, occasionally, it’s a good idea. A classic example is the case of Ray Kroc, the founder and former CEO of McDonald’s. Against the advice of those around him, he borrowed over $2 million to set up his first restaurants. He later explained that he was acting on his “funny-bone instinct.”

10. Leaders always keep the concept of leverage in mind

A leader is always thinking about the positive effects of their actions. They know that both small-scale and large-scale efforts are an opportunity for leverage. For example, a speech at a conference can provide them with a wonderful opportunity to spread their message, so they will invest the time needed to make it memorable. They ensure that they make the best possible use of their assets.

Aim to be an influencer, and you are more likely to trigger real change.

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The 3 Elements of Persuasion You Need to Know

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Have you ever wondered how to ethically use persuasion to motivate people to think, say, and do the things that you want them to do? Having great communication skills is an essential skill for anyone in business. Oftentimes, the way you communicate is responsible for winning and losing.

We must discover the needs of others and connect these needs with the benefit of our product and service. Top sales people build trust fast by establishing rapport and making their customers feel understood.

There are two types of persuasion:

Direct Persuasion is telling someone what to do, how to act, what do say, etc.

Indirect Persuasion involves non-obvious motivators that help someone make the decision themselves where you appear uninvolved.

“Advertising is fundamentally persuasion and persuasion happens to be not a science, but an art.” – William Bernbach

Humans are self-motivating machines and persuasion is NUDGING the person towards your opinion. We want to collaborate with people in a way that helps them and helps us. To do this, you must show that by helping themselves, they will also help you.

If you become an expert in speaking in terms of the other person’s interests then you are going to be wildly persuasive and authentic at the same. If you are trying to get over on people they will sniff it out. Genuinely provide value and speak in terms of the other person’s interests and they will be more easily persuaded for the desired action that you require.

In order to be an expert in persuasion you need to familiarize yourself with these 3 elements of communication:

1. Incentive

These are things that motivate someone’s choice or behavior. They are outside ourselves and are often tangible. They can be monetary or an experience. An incentive is something you receive physically or emotionally for completing the desired outcome.

There is always an incentive whether it is hidden or obvious. If we can understand people’s incentives then we can speak in terms of their interest. The best persuasion tactic is aligning the incentives with the goal that connect the motivator with the outcome. Something beautiful happens if you can do this extremely well. You can never talk about a person’s incentive too much.

If you can align your incentives with the incentives of the other person then you create a true win-win situation that allows you both to maximize success. If you can find this intersection of incentives then you will see you consistently shine in negotiations and regularly create situations of growth.

2. Motivators

Motivators are the engines inside us. Unlike incentives, motivators are things that affect us deep in our spirit. Motivators go in only two directions: toward the things we want OR away from the things we don’t want.

An important fact to note is that motivation away from pain is about twice as powerful as motivation towards pleasure. We will do and risk twice as much to avoid losing something than we are to gain something. Desire and fear are the foundational characteristics in these motivations.

Here are some examples of using motivators successfully:

These motivators are merely examples of the types of phrases you can use. More importantly familiarize with the structure of moving people away from pain and towards pleasure.

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean

3. Decision Makers

Decision makers happen unconsciously and then later we realize that we made a decision. This is why building rapport is so important. Rapport is the connection you need to establish a personal relationship. If the relationship is established then it’s much easier to accomplish your desired outcome. Avoid being ambiguous. People do not like situations when they are unsure of what the implications may be.

It’s important to help people clearly see the same outcome that you do. If you can co-create the ideal result then you will build a bond of trust that aids in the decision making process.

These 3 elements of persuasion are pivotal information. You can apply this knowledge right now by creating win-win situations, painting the picture of what they stand to lose rather than what they are aiming to win and building rapport from their interests, desires and fears.

Which of these persuasion techniques do you enjoy most and why? Let us know by commenting below!

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10 Marketing and Blogging Podcasts You Need to Listen to

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One of the most important lessons you’ll need to learn when you break free of the shackles of the 9-to-5 and embrace the dot com lifestyle is that hours worked do not equate to dollars earned. You’ll also need to learn that you’ll never really “clock out” from the job, because you’ll always be working even when you’re not working. That’s the mindset of the entrepreneur. It’s about making the best use of your time, not about spending as much time as possible working. That would go against the whole dot com lifestyle philosophy!

To this end, things that you do for leisure or for fun can also be productive and help you further your business. Time that is normally wasted away doing nothing especially useful can turn into time that takes you to the next level. That’s why John shoots his “Driving with John Chow” videos. The time he spends driving is going to be spent driving anyway, so he may as well create some content while he’s at it.

And this is also true with choosing what content you wish to consume. Instead of listening to yet another top 40 song on the local radio station, listen to some of these great podcasts on business, entrepreneurship, blogging and marketing. Your time and attention are far better spent this way. Yes, podcasts are very much alive and well, perhaps even thriving in this age of smartphones and an insatiable thirst for more great content.

1. The Blog Millionaire: As you might be able to guess from the title, host Brandon Gaille goes through a myriad of strategies and insights on how you can make more money from blogging. He talks about everything from creating catchy slogans to naming your business to designing the perfect blog sidebar.

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2. Problogger Podcast: One of the best known and most respected names in blogging and Internet marketing is Darren Rowse. He’s been at this game for a very long time and he certainly has a lot of wisdom to pass on to his listeners. The podcast content aligns with his blog, unsurprisingly, helping you be more productive and to become a more successful blogger. He also posts the occasional interview with other successful figures.

3. The Growth Show: While not specifically about blogging in the strictest sense, this podcast by the same people who run Hubspot focuses more on how to grow your company and take it to the next level. They talk to people who have “achieved remarkable growth” and try to figure out how they got to where they did. You can then applies the lessons from their experience to your own professional situation.

4. Unemployable: Years ago, John Chow told people that he wasn’t unemployed; he was unemployable. This podcast uses the same vernacular and it’s hosted by Brian Clark, the hugely successful online personality that you might know better as Copyblogger. The podcast is a mix of interviews and presentations on how to build your successful business.

5. The Tim Ferriss Show: If there is one person who truly embodies the philsophy of the dot com lifestyle, it has to be Tim Ferriss. The champion of the four hour work week, Ferriss “deconstructs world-class” performers in his podcast. Past guests have included everyone from Peter Thiel to Arnold Schwarzenegger.

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6. The Smart Passive Income Podcast: It probably shouldn’t surprise too many people that some of the best podcasts on Internet marketing and blogging also come from the people who run some of the best blogs on the topic. That’s precisely the case here with Pat Flynn and the podcast that accompanies his Smart Passive Income website. The interview series has attracted some big names in the space, including Amy Porterfield, Ramit Sethi and Gary Vaynerchuk. with Pat Flynn

7. The #AskGaryVee Show: Speaking of Gary Vaynerchuk, he’s got a very popular podcast of his own. Many of us may know “Gary Vee” best as the guy who knows his way around wine, but he certainly knows his way around how to build and grow a successful business too. He’s a guy who embraces the “hustle” and it’s that mindset that got him to where he is today.

8. Growth Everywhere Podcast: The context of this podcast is more from the traditional business world at large, as well as with startups and Internet companies of various sizes, but you can easily apply so many of these insights into your Internet marketing and online business strategies. You can learn how one company manages to make $40 million a year with only 15 customers, for example, or how you can bootstrap your own companies and elevate them to massive profitability.

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9. Perpetual Traffic: Run by the good people behind Digital Marketer, the Perpetual Traffic podcast goes through a huge range of subjects that are geared specifically toward generating web traffic. There are episodes on how to improve the conversion rate on your Facebook campaigns, for example, or what it takes to create a high-converting video ad. It’s about getting those eyeballs, converting those eyeballs into clicks, and turning those clicks into dollars in your pocket.

10. Social Media Marketing Happy Hour Podcast: With literally hundreds of podcasts under their belts, Dawn Marrs Ortiz and Traci Reuter gear their content toward anyone who is interested in marketing online. That includes small business owners, MLM professionals, work-at-home parents and Internet marketers alike. Learn about email marketing, developing a content strategy, and how to leverage Snapchat to your advantage.

Do you have any favorite blogging or Internet marketing podcasts?

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7 Principles to Implement Right Now to Be The Best Leader

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Whether you are the class clown or identified geek in the class, why do we automatically assume one cannot lead? There is plenty of research on the introvert and extrovert spectrum but what if it was about how you lead your team, rather than you.

I’m not buying the either-or debate. How you tailor your leadership approach to your people to maximize and leverage their strengths is more important. What if you embraced the approach that leadership is energy? It is drawing energy and amplifying creative juices from a different place.

Introverts draw their energy from their inner empire, extroverts amplify their qualities in more populated surroundings. Leadership preferences are neither wrong or better, nor good or bad. Both leaders can create and empower other leaders.

Let’s step into the inner revolution to delve deeper into 7 keys to lead your team:

1. Know thyself – self-awareness is the key

Self-awareness is the first step in mastery of your life. It’s an introspection, an inner revolution. As Socrates once said, “Know thyself”. The more you pay attention to your emotions and how you work, the better you will understand why you do the things you do. The more you know about your own habits, the easier it is to strengthen and expand them.

President Barack Obama masterfully crafted his execution as an introvert. If you carefully watched Obama’s behavior, his presence projected a calm confidence, learning by listening and honored his inner pull.  Gary Vaynerchuck, runs one of the world’s hottest digital agencies, VaynerMedia, reminds us to “go all in on your strengths”. Know what you are good at and know what you suck at.

The leadership struggle between the leader you wish to be and the leader you really are, pervades most. Self-awareness allows us to draw the line in the sand, to open the door to accept what is rather than what should be. It will upset you, it will rattle your cage and likely press some buttons. The practice of self-awareness is necessary. You need to understand both and decide which path you will take.

2. The internal fire

When we delve into creating long term success, Forbes 1000 companies have demonstrated time after time that communicating vision is the foundation irrespective of where you sit on the introvert or extrovert spectrum. The vision provides the framework for your business. It’s the core of why you do what you do, where you want the company to go. Ultimately, the leader illuminates that path. The vision is the internal fire that fuels long term success.

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” – Helen Keller

3. Create a culture of people

Creating success in the digital world, all leaders need to spend time expanding their unfamiliar zones. Get out of your way, engage and connect with people. Tap into your inner sanctum to explore and reflect on ideas. Research tells us that all successful entrepreneurs invest in time to organize their thinking, deconstruct what works and does not. Leaders maximize opportunities to create a culture of people.

4. Be like water

Have you ever seen a leader who carries themselves with poise, quiet strength and humility at the same time? A professional demeanor in their approach to life and a student of strength. Leaders turn mistakes into teachable moments; never stop or quit when faced with challenges. They adapt and overcome in the midst of the very challenge in the moment. They invest their energy on the solution rather than immersing into a problem saturated world. As Bruce Lee refers to be like water. Be ever-changing.

5. Depth not width

Leaders delight in meaningful connections and thrive in the inner sanctuary of the mind, heart and spirit. Depth is their advantage. They focus on depth, rather than superficiality. Digging deep, meaningful conversations and asking great questions to create a curiosity culture that supports and nurtures people learning and growth. The mere presence of a leader in the environment, curiously seeking authentic feedback promotes an environment where both people and business flourish.

“To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.”

6. Stay in your own lane

Persistence, focus and staying in your own lane leave impactful legacies. Leaders honor the message, align with their values and celebrate you, not themselves. Through dignity and perseverance, through clarity and understanding, they bring people graciously along. With a calm presence and wisdom, they create a legacy of positive impact.

7. The most powerful person in the room is often the quietest

Deep thinkers have more meaningful conversations and present with a calm confidence in times of crisis. They won’t be into the rah-rah and they have much to say in a profound, influential and impactful way.

Susan Cain writes that introverts lead with “soft power”. Compelling leaders, they lead with few words so their actions speak louder. Thousands followed Gandhi because he led a movement in 1930s by speaking softly without carrying a big stick. He proved that one man has the power to take on an empire, using his vision, integrity and non-physical violence. Gandhi’s leadership created impact and influence by his symbolic protest designed to inspire more action.

Leadership is not about extrovert versus introvert. It’s about vision, passion and belief in the vision. It’s decision behavior. It’s about taking action for a cause bigger than you.

What traits do you believe make a great leader? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

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Healthy Lunch Recipes That Are Tasty and Easy

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A healthy lunch doesn’t need to be boring and difficult to make. Here is a collection of healthy lunch recipes that you can try even though you have a busy schedule. Pick a different recipe every day and enjoy your lunch every time.

California Club Croissant Sandwich

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California Club Croissant Sandwich recipe is an easy lunch (or dinner) sandwich with 2 types of cheese and 3 kinds of lunch meat in one flavorful sandwich!

Avocado Egg Salad Roll Ups

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These roll ups made of avocados and eggs are simply full of protein and will make you full!

Moo Goo Gai Pan

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This savory Moo Goo Gai Pan Recipe is a kind of Chinese stir fries rich in veggies and moisture!

Avocado Egg Salad (mayo-free!)

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Mayo-free avocado egg salad makes an easy go-to lunch recipe that made of just a few easy-to-get ingredients!

Paleo Strawberry Avocado Salad

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A Paleo Strawberry Avocado Salad recipe that’s topped off with a delicious and creamy strawberry and lime vinaigrette. Healthy, easy and super yummy!

Thai Chicken Lunch Bowls

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Thai chicken’s taste fresh with a bit sour taste that tones up your mid-day!

Greek Chicken Bowls

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Insanely delicious Greek Chicken Meal Prep Bowls. Greek Marinated Chicken, cucumber salad, tzatziki, red onion, and tomato, served over brown rice.

Loaded Veggie Salad with Chickpeas and Black Beans

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This veggie salad contains a variety of ingredients, ranging from avocados to onions, definitely a healthy choice!

Blueberry Chicken Salad with Rosemary

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Turn leftover cooked chicken into something fabulous with this Blueberry Chicken Salad with Rosemary featuring heart-healthy avocado oil mayo.

Ground Pork Carnitas Tacos

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Ground Pork Carnitas Tacos give you the same taste as slow cooked pork carnitas, but in only 30 minutes! The tasty ground pork mixture is spooned into soft tortillas then topped with salsa verde, cotija cheese, cilantro, and pickled onions.

Paleo Curry

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Healthy, delicious and so easy to prepare. Made with chicken thighs and all kinds of veggies. Add it to your meal plan!

Mediterranean Chopped Salad Pitas

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A different outlook and source to your lunch with Mediterranean food, mixed with cucumber and other all-so-green ingredients!

One-Pan Paleo Bacon Wrapped Chicken

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One-pan Paleo bacon wrapped chicken that’s easy enough for a weeknight, seriously delicious, and with sugar free bacon.

Avocado Chicken Salad Lettuce Wraps

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Chicken salad lettuce wraps lightened up with healthy avocado and NO mayonnaise at all! These wraps are going to quickly become a lunch favorite.

Vegan Tacos with Chickpeas and Smoky Mayo

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Vegan tacos with chickpeas are a super quick, easy and tasty vegan/vegetarian taco recipe for lunch or dinner. Served with a smoky aquafaba mayonnaise.

BBQ Chicken Burrito Bowls

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BBQ Chicken Burrito Bowl is an easy, customizable lunch option that is great both hot or cold!

Creamy Potato Soup

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Creamy Potato Soup – A super easy soup that is thrown in the slow cooker.

BLT Pasta Salad – 15 Minute Meals & Family Favorites

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Quickly done pasta salad with lettuce and bacon, stirred with yummy sauce!

Paleo Sandwich Rounds

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Paleo Sandwich Rounds recipe is suitable for any sandwich filling or hamburgers. Grain/nut/dairy free.

Vegetarian Wrap with Provolone and Roasted Red Pepper Hummus

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This vegetarian wrap will leave you feeling full and satisfied thanks to protein-packed provolone cheese and hummus.

Taco Salad

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A lovely taco salad that is easy to carry and cute to look at. Rich in flavor and texture with tacos, beans and vegetables!

Quinoa Taco Salad

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Enjoy this vegan Quinoa Taco Salad made with 5 ingredients in 2 easy steps. A plant-based, gluten free, Mexican delight with quinoa, salsa, and black beans.

Thai Tuna Power Bowl

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Having some tuna at your lunch to tune up the bowl of vegetables!

California Club Chicken Wrap

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Shredded chicken, mango, avocado and bacon are the stars in this easy California Club Chicken Wrap that is perfect for a weekday.

Turkey Ranch Club Wraps

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Get this Turkey ranch club wrap with turkey and bacon for lunch!

Grilled Summer Vegetable Quesadillas

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These Grilled Summer Vegetable Quesadillas eat with two different kinds of sauces to enrich the flavor!

Healthy Homemade Instant Noodles (Sesame Ginger)

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A recipe for DIY healthy homemade instant noodles, made with real vegetables and whole-wheat pasta. Sesame ginger flavored!

Paleo Bacon Garlic Avocado Burger

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Bacon avocado Paleo burger! Loaded with fresh basil & garlic. Topped with a creamy white sauce & red onion. Soft grain free buns are to die for!

Feed Your Sweet Potato Obsession with These Make Ahead Wraps

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There are sweet potatoes and caramelized onions which means this is the farthest thing from a sad desk lunch.

Healthy Quinoa Summer Salad

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Healthy and green salad with quinoa and avocados, suitable for vegans!

Turkey Bacon Ranch Wraps – Like Mother Like Daughter

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These delicious Turkey Bacon Ranch Wraps are easy to make and eat, wrapped with different ingredients.

Strawberry Pecan Chicken Salad with Green Tea Citrus Vinaigrette: Fun Quick Summer Meal

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Fresh spinach, strawberries & scallions, team with rotisserie, pecans and an easy vinaigrette featuring the same Lipton Green Tea Citrus Iced Tea that will be served with it as a beverage.

Black Bean Stuffed Sweet Potatoes

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These Black Bean Stuffed Sweet Potatoes are vegan and gluten-free, and very easy to make.

Easy 30-Minute Turkey Chili

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Turkey chili to change your taste for once with tomatoes and red kidney beans!

Lentil Spinach Soup

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Lentil spinach soup spiked with cumin and smoked paprika. It’s gluten-free and suitable for vegans!

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Why You Have Fewer Friends as You Grow up (and It's Normal)

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Having good people skills, I know how to make people feel interested and connected. I’m never worried to have no friend. But as I grow up, I find that I have fewer and fewer friends.

And this is not just happening to me.

It is a fairly common feature with everyone. The root of the problem is the way we made those friends in the first place when we young, heart whole and fancy-free.

Everyone makes friends wrong when they were young

Recall your best friends in high school. What made you become friends in the first place? And how did all that start out? Maybe it was because you sat beside her on the first day of school, started to chat and just decided that hey, you guys did get along famously. So you became friends, spending time together during breaks and hanging out after school…

Or maybe both of you were on the football team and there came to be a friendship when your team won or lost, or when you all just practiced hard under the watchful eye of the mean coach. All of you were in a similar state of mind and got close because you all understood how the other felt – because you felt the same way.

What drew you close and held your bonds of friendship together was a common experience. You were in the same situation together. You understood each other. You reveled in each other’s success and shed tears over failures – slowly, this forged strong bonds. But now, years later, when the commonality has vanished, these bonds are fraying or may have already unraveled. Interests have diversified, passions have waned and that common thread that held you together has long been broken.

You meet those old friends now and initially, you can talk about those memories and reminisce about those good old days but very often conversations soon die out. Why? It might be because the common factors are few and far between. You may be a hotshot executive looking to have some tippler to relax. He may be a college professor who’s also a teetotaler vegan. Or you may be a school teacher following a yogic lifestyle and she may be a model who needs her drinks and smokes to stave off her appetite. You just have grown out of your friendship.

Some friends stay because they share the same things deep, deep down

Most of us may have lost many of our childhood friends to changing scenarios and diversifying interests, but we still have a couple of good friends around. Sound right? Now you may not meet these gems every now and then and may actually talk to them just once in a while – but you know that they’ll always be there for you, just a holler away…It’s because of you and these friends of you share the same core values that form the basis of a deep and lasting friendship.

Now you got it. You and your everlasting friends are very similar, deep deep down. It’s like you peel the layers of professions and hobbies and likes and dislikes and you’ll find that you and this friend of yours are very alike, in the most important things of life.

The same angst in the world drives you both nuts. A movie can move you to tears. You may hate the current President for his anti-democratic values or may like him for his all-American ones. You guys are the wind beneath each other’s sails and yet also are unafraid to play the devil’s advocate for each other because you want good things for your friend and vice versa.

Picture this: on one side you have a friend who’s very like you on the surface but when you get to really know him – he turns out to be money-minded while its morals all the way for you. Would this friendship last? We all know the answer to that and it’s a resounding no. But you might have a friend who is poles apart in nature, profession, and interest but who shares the same fair-minded world view that you have. Here you do have a friend for life.

How to build friendship that will survive

They key to making lasting friendships as an adult is to get to know their deep, innermost thoughts before and you can do this by not relying on your instinct and judgment but by asking questions.

Ask stuff that will help reveal what they believe in, what they’re strongly against for, what is their ideal world, what is their ideal life, what are their top priorities in life… Since it may just prove to be a tad awkward to ask such questions, frame them in a sly way. Play a game of truth or dare. Or coat the questions with a fun color of paint like the 36 questions claimed to be able to make people fall in love! [1]. Some of them are: “When did you last cry in front of somebody?” or “Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?” or even “What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?”…

Bear in mind that this method might not make us make friends more easily. Instead it might be even more difficult. The idea is not to make “more” friends, rather the “right” friends. You need to set your standards high so that you are able to be with the people that understand you, complement you and ultimately make you a happier person in a happier place. For when it comes to friendships, it’s not the quantity you should be concerned with, but the quality.

As Thomas Fuller said, “If you have one true friend, you have more than your share…”

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How "Good Advice" by Parents Turns out to Be Bad for Children

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Some kids want to grow up to be pro basketball players or astronauts; my daughter on the other hand wants to grow up to become a unicorn. Lots of parents still tell their children often that they can grow up to be whatever they want to be. That’s all well and good unless your daughter wants to become a unicorn or your son is 16 years of age, only 5’5″, and wants to play for the Chicago Bulls. If your 16 year old has unrealistic pro sports dreams without a backup plan such as a college education or goals outside of these pro sports dream, then you are failing them as a parent by saying “you can be anything you want to be”. The odds of my daughter becoming a unicorn when she grows up are zero. I can respond with “that would be so much fun to become a unicorn, but we don’t get to change species when we grow up, although it is fun to pretend to be a unicorn now though”.

Reality and truth need to go hand in hand with your advice to your kids. Otherwise, your 16 year old with dreams of becoming a pro ball player may end up becoming a 25 year old living in your basement and delivering pizzas for a living.

Don’t dole out poor advice and absolutes that simply are not true in the real world. Evaluate the advice you are giving your kids: Is is true or realistic? Is it helpful or harmful to them in the longterm?

It is time to stop using antiquated words of advice with our children that are actually doing more harm than good. Turn those antiquated phrases around by using thoughts, ideas, and advice that can actually work in the real world and help them, not harm them.

Below are some of the common words of advice that parents are still using today that need to stop, along with suggestions regarding what should actually be said.

1. “Do as I say, not as I do.”

This is some of the worst advice parents can give to their children. Children actually learn more from their parents’ modelling of behavior, than what they say to them. If parents are modelling poor behavior then saying “do as I say, not as I do”, their words will have little to no impact. Instead, it is better to acknowledge their shortcomings if they see their child following in their footsteps with a particular bad habit. If parents feel compelled to use such a phrase, perhaps it is time to reassess their own habits.

For example, if I tell my daughter not to yell at her brothers, yet that is what I am doing every day to her and her brothers, perhaps it is time to look myself in the mirror and work toward meaningful change in stopping my own yelling first, so I can model better behavior. It is hard to teach someone how to change their behavior if you can’t or won’t do it yourself. Work to be an example of how you want your child to act, as you are the most influential model in their life. Actions speak louder than words.

2. “Everything will be ok.”

How do parents know everything will be ok? Parents are not fortune tellers, so sometimes it’s best not to use that phrase, especially when it is not helpful.

If your child’s best friend is dying of Leukaemia, it’s unrealistic and actually harmful to your child to say “everything will be ok”. Often to a child that phrase is internalized that things will turn out how they want them to turn out. To this child, that phrase can thus be interpreted in their mind that their friend will be cured and coming back to school soon. You don’t know if that is the case, especially in a situation where things are deemed “terminal” of “highly unlikely”.

Don’t give your child false hope, as you will be seen as a liar. It also inhibits their ability to process the situation. Instead of making yourself out to be a liar, be realistic. Let your child know gently and sensitively the reality of what is possible or likely going to happen. However, you can also allow them to keep hope alive at the same time. Don’t try to delude them of the gravity of the situation by saying “everything will be ok” if that is clearly not the case.

3. “Boys don’t cry.”

I don’t know who made up this lie, but it is a doozy. When parents say this to their sons, they are denying them their feeling, sending them the message that they need to hold back their emotions, and the society ends up with a whole lot of men who repress their emotions.

For decades parents have been telling their sons that they can’t cry. Why not? Repressing your emotions is not healthy emotionally in the long run, nor is it good for relationships. Allow your boys to turn into men who can appropriately show their emotions, including crying.

4. “Push through the pain.”

This lie can do actual physical harm to children. I was a runner for years and I had a coach that used to say “you need to run through the pain”. I was just a teen, but took those words seriously. I pushed through the pain and ended up with eight stress fracture and missing state finals with the team as a result of the injuries. Pain is a way our body signals to us that something is not right.

Discomfort is one thing, but to tell a child to push through actual pain is harmful. Instead, teach your child to listen to the signals from their body. Is it discomfort they are feeling or is it actual pain? Teach them to distinguish between the two and to get help if they are truly injured.

My hobby of running was ruined for a lifetime. Other athletes have done the same, creating so much injury in their body that they can never again enjoy their hobby. Don’t kill your child’s love for a hobby or sport by making it no longer possible because of a permanent physical injury.

5. “You can be anything you want to be.”

This was discussed above in the article. A better approach to this topic of their future is to be an encouragement to your child in regard to their hopes and dreams, but also the voice of reality (in a kind and sensitive manner).

As a parent, help them stay grounded in reality so that they can set life goals and ambitions that are attainable. You don’t want them to feel totally and utterly like a failure in life when they learn they are not making the pros with no other goals or prospects for the future even entertained. Don’t squash dreams, but help them also think about realistic and attainable goals, even if you have to present the idea to them as a “backup plan”. At least it will get them thinking about various, more realistic options, rather than one lofty goal that has less than a 1% chance of happening.

6. “Just be yourself and everything will be fine.”

This one can be especially hard on kids socially. Sometimes their behavior or actions are not socially accepted or welcomed by friends. If your daughter has a habit of “giving her friends a piece of her mind” every time they upset her, because that is just who she is as a person, then perhaps it’s time to make some adjustments. Just being yourself does not always have the best outcome. Sometimes it has negative outcomes. Your daughter will lose friends by giving them a piece of her mind on a regular basis.

Not all of our propensity traits are good ones. Sometimes we need to learn to manage the bad ones. More harm than good will be done in your daughter’s social circle if being herself alienates people. Let your child know it’s ok to be themselves unless they are doing something illegal, unethical, immoral, or harmful to others.

Being ourselves is not always acceptable to others and that is something that can help us decide if we need to make changes in ourselves or find new friends. The choice for change is up to each individual, which is more empowering than the falsehood that if you act like yourself all will be ok.

7. “Focus on the future and you will be a success.”

Whatever happened to allowing kids to be kids? It can do more harm than good when parents push their kids toward success by “focusing on the future”. Children in elementary school do not need to be thinking about what sports and extra curricular activities will help them get into a great college. So many adults and young adults self medicating with alcohol and drugs just because they have been stressing about their future since they were small children.

There will always be a future, stressing about it in childhood is more likely to lead to earlier burnout. It is also more likely to push the child toward bad habits and choices in order to self medicate and relieve stress. Don’t push your child toward bad choices or burnout by stressing them out about their future. Allow your child to be a child and to experience the present.

Psychology Today discussed research that found happy people were more successful in life.[1] Research also showed that happier people are better equipped to handle stress in life. Allow your child happiness by letting them live in and enjoy the present. Don’t put their childhood in fast forward by having them focus on the future. Happy children and people live their lives in the present and not the future. Children will be more successful if you allow them the joy of living in the present and not the future.

8. “All you need for success in life is to work hard.”

This piece of advice is a farce that some families embrace for generations. Just because someone works 16 hours a day and does their job well doesn’t mean they are going to be a success. People can be working at a dead end job with no chance of promotion. Working smart will give you a better chance at success than hard work alone.

Working hard is a good trait, but it needs to be paired with working smart. Say a family has two children. They grow up and one believes that hard work is the key to success so he stays in the same job working up and getting promoted, yet he works 16 hours a day and can only be promoted so far in the company because he doesn’t have any special skills. The other child believes in working smart. This person tries to take courses and equip himself with new skills. He selects a career field that is in high demand. He continues to climb higher in his career field afterwards. The second sibling has more opportunities because he isn’t limited because of not having any skills. The second sibling sees a career field that is in demand, so he equips himself with skills needed in that field. Both have worked hard, but the second worked smarter because they aren’t going to dead end in their career because of not having a degree.

This is just an example. Not all careers and jobs require special skills or a college education, but you need to help your child figure out what their idea of success in their desired career looks like. Help them see what decisions need to be made, to make smarter moves toward achieving that goal. Work smart to achieve, not overworking yourself into a dead end.

Every Single Piece of Advice Parents Give Does Matter

Many parents may have recognized themselves in some of these advice scenarios. Most parents mean well, as they want their children to grow up to be successful and happy.

However, you can now see that some of the advice parents are giving needs to be changed. Recognizing the problem is the first key toward change. Next is developing a plan for what you will say the next time the subject arises.

Having a plan for what you will say will help you be prepared to provide helpful advice that will benefit your child in the long term. Write down your new found advice so that you can reflect and remember the wisdom or advice you want to pass onto your child to help them.

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Reference

[1] Psychology Today: Happy People Succeed

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